Mark A. Chidley, Certified Rapid Resolution Therapist

Success and Failure: The Fixed Mindset as a Form of Stuckness

April 30th, 2012

Picture it. Two fifth grade boys are taking the same mid-term science exam. One boy who generally gets A’s in most of his classes, gets his first C ever and is devastated. He now feels he is stupid, a loser, and while he manages to end up with a B for the course, goes through the rest of the year with the nagging doubt that he has “what it takes.”[Read More]

The Power of Vulnerability-Using the Larger Self

April 1st, 2012

An angry man who had spent months accusing his wife of sexual coldness was beginning to turn the corner in therapy. By progressive steps he owned his side of the cycle–the noxious remarks and behaviors that had stung her and turned her away. The secondary anger that had so dominated his approach was validated and accepted as the best he could do to protect himself from the massive fear of[Read More]

Appraisals

March 1st, 2012

The power of our minds to assign meanings is truly awesome. Our senses take in a physical cue and in less than an instant, an initial appraisal is made of the thing as either good or bad. There is an emotional feel to it as well–safe or dangerous. Then as the cue percolates in our mind, and as we take in more data, a further re-appraisal is made. It is usually[Read More]

Our Weird Addictions

February 1st, 2012

People have infinite ways of providing themselves comfort as an answer to emotional pain. Cutting, burning, picking or scratching the skin; pulling out hair, chewing nails down to the quick. Actually almost anything done excessively in an altered state can do the trick: shopping, spending, hoarding, exercising, sex, masturbating, gambling, and, of course, eating or restricting eating. Almost anything that can be put in the mouth, inhaled, touch the skin,[Read More]

Codependency

December 24th, 2011

Codependency is a term that was given birth in the addiction recovery community. It originally gave clinicians a way to get a handle on the remarkable similarity they often saw in the troubled family members of addicts. Over time another and perhaps better term was coined by P. Melody, developmental immaturity. She provided us a frame on which to arrange the deficits we saw in self-esteem, boundaries, reality, interdependence, and[Read More]

Depression

December 1st, 2011

Rapid Resolution Therapy takes a rather unique view of Depression. Unique, I think, because it actually leads the therapist into unique and innovative ways of seeing the effect we want to have and using language to help our clients up and out of the bogs they get in.

Jon Connelly teaches that emotion is really effort. Nature has arranged it so that any negative emotion is the primitive brain’s tool to[Read More]